Monthly Archives: October 2014

CSH Attendance comes up on my cell phone….


“Hello. Your student, Daniel Marrs, was marked absent in the following periods….”

I get this phone call just about every day.

At first it was because he only went to school for an hour or so. Then because we started only going to school three days a week. Now, because he’s starting to refuse to go.

Danny has an incredibly unique to him placement.

It’s taken multiple meetings, but his paperwork (IEP) reflects the placement the team came up with and the amount of support he requires when he is in the building so he is the most successful in this least restrictive environment.

He is on Homebound (not attending school for medical reasons but still seeing a teacher a few hours a week at home provided by the district). And, when he feels well enough, he goes to school for as long as he can.

But his primary placement is Homebound, not the high school.

Because this is so unique, I expected bumps. And we had them.

We struggled with the best times of day Danny would attend. And then we had conversations about the level of staffing Danny actually required to be successful and safe. We also had trouble coordinating with the Homebound team.

But finally, after ten weeks, all our ducks are in a row.

Just in time for the weather to change and Dan to not feel strong enough to attend school.

The last little bump that I am having the hardest time ironing out is Chatfield’s attendance office.

So, every day I call back and explain again that Danny’s primary placement is on Homebound and his attending school will become more and more erratic as we continue with the school year….and how do I keep him from being truant.

I’ve met the nice lady who manages all three thousand students. And she’s trying to make d’s plan work within the procedures she also has to follow.

This is just the last example of how unique to Danny his high school experience is.

Which is the exact spirit of IDEA.



Right now, the rams are down in the canyon…..


You can tell it’s a big deal….

One, because you should see the amazing camera equipment people are bringing in to get a shot of these guys.

And also because the guys that work for Denver Water in the canyon, are pulling over and whipping out their own cell phones to take pictures of these amazing creatures.






OMGosh!!! It’s a catastrophe!!!


Our cable and Internet is out.

There was a funny flickering of lights and then boom

No tv.

No wifi.

Oh what should we do????

We adapt.

I still have Signing Time DVDs. And only because I’ve never found those on a download or online.


Thank goodness.

At least Danny is content for a bit.

Jack on the other hand is just beside himself.


The weekend on Marrs….


Kate has been dealing with “the baby”. We ended up with the fussy one (of course). She’s so tired and it totally has done what I wanted it to….convince her that she is no where near ready for the no sleeping.




Hugh and I took Danny to see the sheep.


Kate had a bonding last night.



Danny just “hung out”


I do have a third child. But jack is thirteen and doesn’t consent to get his picture taken.

Eh, what are you going to do?


It’s baby weekend….


Kate is taking a child development elective this semester.

Part of the class is a weekend with a computerized baby. Who cries when he needs to be fed, changed, rocked, burped… Basically all the same times a real baby needs attention.


I get this text from Kate as she is coming home from cheer practice.

“Can you help me bring stuff in, he’s already cried”



“You are literally the most stressful thing in my life…. I so do not want one of these for a long long time”

The momma in me is going Yeehaw!!!

A thousand words….



I keep Hugh off the blog.

Mostly because he is a private man.

But this picture.

This picture reminds me of Danny’s first very uncomfortable year.

And how Hugh would come home after working 10-15 hour days….grab baby d and circle our small kitchen trying to make him feel better and also allowing me a much needed sanity moment.

I married a good man.

And he’s a better father.


Look at the smiles those two ( of the three) men of my life…they have the same smile.

It was an all time record today….


Sometimes getting Danny out the door is like hearding cats.

We spend a bunch of time making sure everything is just right as we try to leave.

And truthfully, the less he wants to go someplace, the longer it takes us to hit the car.

But today, when I said “come on buddy…it’s a school day…”

He got frustrated with me because I wasn’t moving fast enough for him.

And he especially did not care for the five minute conversation Jillian and I were having during the pass off in the high school parking lot.

He doesn’t make it for long, but omgosh, he is having a blast while he is there.


The strangest thing….



Danny and I got out today.

We ran a few errands and then he consented to picnic while we did a few laps around Harriman Lake.

Among the few of us circling the lake, there was an older gentleman going the opposite direction.

“It’s really great to see you both out here” he says to me on the first pass.

It stuck with me.

Danny and I try to adventure while he feels well. Because, honestly, we both see enough of our house.

We go out.

We do things.

And he doesn’t go out with just me.

Dad takes him….Jillian takes him…

But I’ve noticed something through the years.

The world treats us differently when we are with Danny.

Sometimes it requires a thick skin…..because the stares do happen.

But most of the time, it’s as if we are more approachable. And we constantly strike up conversations with complete strangers.