Monthly Archives: February 2017

I married well….


We’ve made some pretty drastic changes on how we do things here on marrs as Danny escalated behaviorally because of his frustration with not being understood.  So for the past few weeks it’s been me and d all the time undoing his frustrations. 

It’s also busy season. 

But every night after working a 10-12 hour day, Hugh gives me a few hours off. Just like he would do when the kids were toddlers.   I married well. 💕

That moment when you realize you better not get hit by a bus…


D would be angry, frustrated and totally lost he’s fine with us but the rest of the world I cannot teach to be us.  And since Hugh would have to work…that leaves 40, 50, 80 hours he’s not with us. 

I’ve tried and tried and tried 

And still I’ve failed to train to be me. 

I don’t know how to fix his frustration paired with my needing to rely on others so I can get an oil change as I’ve given up working out for the next few months 
This my friend is the dilemma of a special needs momma. 

What do I do?  No help is better than  help  I’ve trained for months and still doesn’t understand you must vocalize what d is saying not just answer him 

No wonder he escalated to behaviors ive not seen in a while. 

I don’t think it’s something I’m able to salvage.   It is what it is now, no matter my efforts when he was a peanut. 

Fingers crossed I live a long long life.